Have you ever had a moment when you wanted to say something kind to someone, and the opportunity passed you by? Conversely, have you ever had the urge to really unload on someone, but resisted? After these moments passed, were you comfortable with your actions in the moment?
The Kapha season provides an excellent opportunity to take a moment to remember the power our words have to support and nurture those around us. When expressed with care, kindness and truth, even thoughts and feelings that could be very hurtful can be shared in ways that encourage growth in a relationship. When a positive thought is genuine and the recipient truly worthy, an expression of awareness about their unique qualities can create a chain reaction of equally positive gestures. Imagine positive observations, given a voice and moving through space. Can you see them creating waves of happiness in their wake?
Moments of giving are balanced by moments of receiving. How do you respond when someone shares their observations about you? How often do we pass that off, belittle our efforts and turn a blind eye to a kind word? Receiving can be difficult, but this is also a practice that stems from our time on the yoga mat. If you have realized that you are worthy of the time you give to your yoga practice, it is only a short stretch to understand that you are also worthy of the love and positive thoughts others direct your way!
Don't let your thoughts freeze or grow stagnant in your mind. Remember, life is an eternity comprised of infinite points of light in all of its vastness. Don't be afraid to be a bright light, empowering those you can. In doing so, remember to share frustrations and negative emotions with care. They are your right. They are normal, and provide balance to the information we give and receive. How would we know how good, "good" is, if we didn't have exposure to "bad"? Hurt is a product of a situation, not necessarily one person. Focus on the situation, and work to improve that.
"As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." ~ Marianne Williamson